For those of you that don't have the pleasure of knowing Tha King on a personal level, let me make one thing clear, I'm brutally honest. If you ask my opinion or for my advice I'm going to give it to you, no sugar coating. For some people, Tha King's honesty is seen as a valuable trait which is why I'm always being asked for my opinion. The problem arises when people ask for my advice when what they really want so me to blow smoke up their asses and tell them everything is going to be fine.
This was the situation with my friend, we'll call her Kevin Garnett(Its a female). About a year ago, KG ended her 5 year relationship with her boyfriend because the boyfriend wanted to see other people. Like most people that end a long term relationship, they continued to have sex. So its a year later and KG is confused by her ex boyfriend's recent behavior. She claims that all he talks about is sex and that he is constantly demanding that they have sex and if she refuses he stops speaking to her. She says that he is not showing any concern for her feelings what so ever. She comes to the Tha King seeking perspective.
I informed her that for him, the relationship was over and so was the concern for her feelings. Their situation had become purely sexual as far as he's concerned like most purely sexual relationships he viewed her pretty much as a source of pleasure and thats it. I've done it before so it was pretty plain to see for me. Naturally this didn't sit well with KG and an argument began. Tha King can fully understand why but hey, don't shoot the messenger. Tha King admits, his choice of words could have been a little more sensitive(my girl tells me that all the time) seeing as how she clearly still cares about the kid. However I think my assessment of the situation was dead on, if you don't want my advice don't ask for it. I apologized for my poor choice of words but I refuse to apologize for giving my opinion when it was asked for.
So what say you people? Should I have blown smoke up KG's ass and told her everything she wanted to hear? Or was I really telling her the real deal? Was I even right in how I viewed the situation?
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When keeping it real goes wrong lol.
ReplyDeleteFirst off your not speaking to one of your home boys, this is a female who obviously had more of her feeling invested then she would have like to admit, so try taking a lighter approach next time. We all can't be THA KING after all.
Ok you could have used a little different use of words. Sometimes you have to put yourself into situations. But she chose to continue to still f*ck wit him and after a year if that's all they did was f*ck than umm what she think....they was both using each other but she made the mistake of letting her feelings get continue to get deeper. She probably was holding on to a lil hope, then got tired of everything being about sex.
ReplyDeleteI think THE KING or anyone of the matter should never sugar coat or water down their opinion/advice after all we're all entitled to one...However I do think its important to choose our word carefully and be a little sensitive to peoples feeling not everyone is tuff, not to mention when giving advice its better not to upset the other person or your advice will most likely come across unclear or in one ear and out the other
ReplyDelete...Home boy must of had a golden mandigo if she continued to keep fu*king him for a whole year after they broke up lol wow I wouldn't give that shit up too. Her sex life must have been something worth wild....
On a serious side note ladies sex and money are the two worst thing to let a man control /manipulate you with...good sex is awesome, flashy things are cool but your self value and confidence level should be worth much more than the two together
I know when i ask Tha King for advice there is no watering down for me if i dont get any i dont think anyone else should either. KG should know this when shs talks to you.
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