CHANGE the game

I had a entirely different post for today but I saw the paper this morning and felt like I had to talk about this. Especially given the fact that just yesterday someone asked me how I felt about the job President Obama(has anyone noticed that Fox never refers to him as President Obama?) has done thus far.

The thing that people need to understand is that the US government works VERY SLOWLY. The bills that get passed today were probably introduced sometime last year. We went really start to feel the effects of Obama's policies until at least another year. For people to even be attempting to judge the job he's doing at this stage of the game is unfair to him and not wise on their part. However, we can judge him on how he handles certain situations like the one involving Henry Louis Gates Jr and Sgt James Crowley. If you don't know background story, get from under that rock stop reading this and go to New York Times.com immediately.

Pictured above is President Obama, sharing a beer with Gates and Crowley. Applaud this man. This is exactly how grown men handle their disagreements, over a brew. Fuck the politics and the diplomacy and all that bullshit. When It's crunch time, I need my leader to handle shit like grown men do. Tha King approves Obama, he can have a beer with me any day. He said it a million times that change doesn't happen overnight. It takes time people. We made him our president, now let him do his job.

Family Business

I'm actually surprised I've gone this long without writing something about my brother. For the sake of anonymity lets call him Scar.(Get it?) I'm going to need to give you some back ground information on Scar. That nigga crazy! There's no other way to put it. Dude has no type of sense. Good intentions though, most of the time. My brother has never had a problem attracting women (He looks like me, what do you expect?) All races, ages and backgrounds, we don't discriminate when delegating the pipe, wait did I say we? I meant HE.

So over the years dude has brought home some rather interesting chicks. One thing they all had in common, other than a love a big black men, is that they were all what most people would consider attractive. Big butts, Nice racks, decent faces. Dude does well for himself, rather he did well for himself. his last relationship ended a little over a year ago and then he's been doing his fair share of pipe slinging.

For Obama's inauguration my family all met up at my aunts house to watch the day's events. As customary when visiting my aunt we bring dates. So my brother decides to bring this one female from around the way that he's friendly with .been giving the pipe too. Now, saying this chick is slightly different than the women we're accustomed to seeing him with would be an understatement. Shorty was busted. I stress the word shorty cause she was barely five feet tall. Not even 100lbs. My brother eat chicken legs bigger than this chick. So we get to my aunt's and shes greeting us as walk in the house. In come my brother., aunt gives him a kiss on the cheek in comes shorty. My Aunt lets out a quick "oh" than catches herself. The rest of the afternoon is rather uneventful, the real action took place the next day on the phone between my aunt and my mother;

Auntie: We have to talk

Ma: What's wrong?

Auntie: Who was that girl that Scar brought over yesterday.

Ma: I don't know, some girls he's talking to, why?

Auntie: Well, she was like the girls I'm used to seeing Scar with, is something going on with him?

Ma: What do you mean?

Auntie: You know what I mean [mothers name], shes ugly!

Ma: You know, your ridiculous. I know the girl is ugly, thats none of my business.

Needless to say my aunt wasn't the only person who felt like this, myself and my mother each received phone calls from multiple family member concerned that my brother might have lost his mind, or at least his vision. He chose NOT to bring her to the next family outing.

Have any of you ever had experiences where your family didn't approve of the person you were dating? How did you handle. Is your families approval in mind when your deciding whether or not you want to see someone? Let here your stories people.

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I gotta call it like I see it.

 

For those of you that don't have the pleasure of knowing Tha King on a personal level, let me make one thing clear, I'm brutally honest. If you ask my opinion or for my advice I'm going to give it to you, no sugar coating. For some people, Tha King's honesty is seen as a valuable trait which is why I'm always being asked for my opinion. The problem arises when people ask for my advice when what they really want so me to blow smoke up their asses and tell them everything is going to be fine.

This was the situation with my friend, we'll call her Kevin Garnett(Its a female). About a year ago, KG ended her 5 year relationship with her boyfriend because the boyfriend wanted to see other people. Like most people that end a long term relationship, they continued to have sex. So its a year later and KG is confused by her ex boyfriend's recent behavior. She claims that all he talks about is sex and that he is constantly demanding that they have sex and if she refuses he stops speaking to her. She says that he is not showing any concern for her feelings what so ever. She comes to the Tha King seeking perspective.

I informed her that for him, the relationship was over and so was the concern for her feelings. Their situation had become purely sexual as far as he's concerned like most purely sexual relationships he viewed her pretty much as a source of pleasure and thats it. I've done it before so it was pretty plain to see for me. Naturally this didn't sit well with KG and an argument began. Tha King can fully understand why but hey, don't shoot the messenger. Tha King admits, his choice of words could have been a little more sensitive(my girl tells me that all the time) seeing as how she clearly still cares about the kid. However I think my assessment of the situation was dead on, if you don't want my advice don't ask for it. I apologized for my poor choice of words but I refuse to apologize for giving my opinion when it was asked for.

So what say you people? Should I have blown smoke up KG's ass and told her everything she wanted to hear? Or was I really telling her the real deal? Was I even right in how I viewed the situation?

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Get that stauche outta here!

A quick public service announcement before today's post; If your reading this Tha King would greatly appreciate it if you would LEAVE A COMMENT after you've read the post! That's the point of blogging my friends. If you don't leave comments then I'm must just talking to myself on this page come on people. Lets do it!

Saturday was my older sisters birthday. She's actually my cousin but you know how black folks do, your friends are your cousins and your cousins are your siblings. I decide to come out of my little bubble and make a social appearance. My sister is very much the club type so naturally that's where we're headed. The first club we went to we had a little altercation with one the bouncers. I'm considering if I should go back there and slap the shit out of that guy. So we ended up is fancy smacny a bar/lounge on the roof of some hotel. Its was cool, nice view, good ambiance. Some of the women from America's next top model were there( which I actually can't confirm because I have no idea what any of them look like but that's what they said.)

So I'm in there doing After about four rum punches I was in full bug out mode, dancing to everything from Kelly Clarkston to DMX. I notice that one of sisters home girls has been playing me close pretty much the whole night. My girl is out of town and a dance or two is harmless so I pull her over. We pretty much danced the rest of the night. It was cool, I had fun. At the end of the night before they hop in a cab she takes my phone and puts in her number. Didn't ask for it but I didn't wanna hurt her feelings.

Fast forward to yesterday. My sister sends me the thank you e-mail with pictures from the night attached. As I'm going through the pics I make a very disturbing discovery, HOME GIRL HAD A STAUCHE!!! Everything else on her was good to go, If I were single I would have went after it, until I saw she had the Burt Reynolds on her face.

Now I've got my fair share of flaws and I'm pretty accepting of other people's but even I've gotta draw the damn line somewhere. Female facial hair is a no-no, no matter how good the rest of you looks. Call me sallow. I'm sure everyone has a deal breaker where no matter how good the rest of the person maybe, inside and out, you can't deal because of that one imperfection. So hit the comments people, lets say you meet a girl/guy and everything seems perfect. What is that one physical imperfection that would kill them every time?

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Life's a bitch

I'm focused man! My first day back work from my vacation and I'm already counting down the days til the next one. The good thing about being back at work is that I have plenty of time to post. So I'm sure you've heard about the whole Nas/ Kelis situation by now. ( side note- By now the observant people have noticed that Tha King isn't referring to himself in the 3rd person today. It gets a bit corny after a while so I decided to give a rest for a few posts.) Well for those of you that have been living under a rock Nas has been ordered by whoever the hell decides this stuff that he is to pay Kelis 40,000 a month in alimony, that in addition to the 5,000 in medical fees he had to pay during the birth of their son, Knight ( Of all the dumbass names.)

Where the hell did this man go wrong? He's paying more in support than both 50 Cent and Diddy who both make quite a bit more than he does. Homeboy let that milkshake get his nose wide open and they didn't sign that pre-nup. Love is love and its a beautiful thing but nothing in life is promised. In the event of a divorce, which I don't believe in, both parties should leave with what they came with. The problem is, a lot of women get offended when asked to sign one. Chicks need to get over it. They claim that by asking, the man isn't showing any faith in the relationship lasting, but bu you refusing your not showing any faith either. Somebody is gonna have to give in. Why should an average, working man have to give up a percentage of his earnings to ensure that his ex is living comfortably? What if the marriage ended because she was unfaithful? Is that fair?

So to those reading (which is nearly 100% female, gotta get some more dudes reading, ladies tell your friends!) When Mr right pops the question then pops out that paper for you to sign, will you? Do you feel like it in cheapens the marriage in some way?

Your My Little Secret...and that's how we should keep it.

I'm baaaaaackk! Its been a while since Tha King's last post. I was on vacation from work. For some reason its harder to sit in front of the computer when your not getting paid to do it. I've been stockpiling topics so expect a few back to back this upcoming week. Some interesting stuff went down during Tha King's time off from work.

For some strange reason, people seem to be very comfortable talking about their sex life around Tha King. Tha King doesn't mind, he's just as nosey as he is nasty so it works out well. During my last conversation with one person in particular she revealed that she had recently was involved in a 3 man tango with 2 male partners. Thankfully she kept the specifics to herself. (If your reading this B, you know I got love for ya crackhead ass) Tha King does not pass judgement on people and neither should the rest of you. Her next statement was very interesting to me. She said that now that she had tried everything sexually that she wanted to she was ready to settle down and get married.

Tha King's inital reaction was "Gee, I'm sure your husband is going to be thrilled when you tell him this story." Then I started to think. The reality is, this girl hasn't done anything that millions of other girls haven't tired. Hell, some of them might be reading this(admit it!!). At some point these women will settle down and get married, their husbands never knowing about the hoe-ish stage in their life. In the interest of fairness, the women will have no clue of their husband's slutty past as well, unless of course their husbands are like Tha King and run their mouths way more than they need to.

So, is it safe to assume that all sexually active women have a few stories that they won't be sharing with the person they hope to marry? Are you not sharing because you feel its none of his business or do you think that his opinion of you would change if he was aware of these past experiences? If so, as a women are you sure this is the right person for you? Shouldn't the person your going to spend the rest of your life with be able to accept ever part of your life? Even the icky parts?

The "scent"

Greetings peeps. I trust everyone had a good holiday? Now that the 4th has past Tha King has one request for everyone; Get your asses in the gym! We all know we had one too many hamburgers at all those damn cookouts. Its was the banana pudding that did Tha King in.

Yesterday while having a lunchtime talk with a friend of mine, she voiced her frustration with the amount of attention her boyfriend had been getting from other women. Tha King chuckled at his naive friend as I told her that her man had "the scent." We hear about the scent frequently on Television as something which attracts single women to men who are taken. There really is no such thing as "the scent" and the reason why taken men, and women, seem to get so much attention is very logical. So if you ever wondered why people in relationships always seem more appealing than single people here are a few of the main reasons;

1. 3rd party approval - Have you ever been shopping online and seen something that interests you but you aren't quite sold? What do you do? Read the reviews of people that have the product. Same thing applies here. If a man already has a girlfriend that means it is safe to assume she is satisfied with him. If he were crazy or abusive or a bum she wouldn't be with him. Like you ladies love to say "All the good men are taken."

2. The little secret - He has a girl! Which means he isn't gonna be calling you all crazy, showing up unannounced at your house/job etc. If your just looking for a physical relationship there is nothing better. Use him and send him home. If he objects what is he gonna do? Tell his girl?

3. Ego- Yes, women have them, and they like their egos stroked just like men do. What better ego boost to a chick then knowing your providing a man with something he isn't getting from his woman? He's also risking his relationship, and possibly his life(RIP Steve McNair), to be with you.

Its summer time.Ladies watch ya man, fellas check your girl. Cause everyone else damn sure is.


Agree? Disagree? More to add? Hit the comments.