A new post! Its been along time coming. I wrote a couple of posts but at the last second I decided not to put them up for whatever reason. Indecisiveness is one of the few flaws Tha King does possess. As you may or may not know, most of the topics that I write about are inspired more or less by my colorful assortment of friends, family, co-workers and associates. Tha King keeps some very interesting company but I wouldn't trade them for the world, with the exceptions of a few bad apples that I'm secretly plotting to run down with the royal whip.
Today however I'm hear to talk about an issue that has been popping up in Tha King's life the past few years. Tha King at a pretty heated argument last week with one of his closest friends.
Before I continue I must explain to you that his person's stubbornness and arrogance rivals only Tha King's. This person, for the sake of storytelling we shall dub him, Kurt Thomas, has been a friend of tha King since our early teenage years. after high school, Kurt Thomas decided to go away to an out of state college while tha King opted to stay at home for college.(One of the biggest regrets of the King's life, but that's a tale for another day) Fast Forward five years, Kurt Thomas has come home, degree in tow(Tha King is so proud) and ready to pick up life where he left off after high school. There's only one problem, its 5 years later! Tha King, and all of Kurt's other friends and family have gone on with their lives and are not longer available for Kurt Thomas at a moment's notice. Jobs, school, Girlfriends and other responsibilities prevent Tha King from being able to chill with Kurt Thomas the way they did fresh out of high school.
This doesn't sit well with KT and he now feels like Tha King has turned his back on him. Tha King tires to explain that although they might not speak or chill everyday like in the past. The friendship is still just as strong. Friendship isn't affected by time and distance. If two people are true friends then there should be no hard feelings after a period of no contact. Before cell phones and the Internet friends would go for months, sometimes years, with out speaking to each other. Whenever they did get a chance to speak, the friendship would resume as if they had spoken only yesterday, this is the true nature of a friendship. At least it should be.
So I ask you Loyal followers. Is tha King being a bad friend because he has other priorities or is Kurt Thomas overreacting? Do friends need to be in contact frequently in order to remain friends?
Friendships are one of those things that are not the same for everyone. For some, they have to be in constant contact in order to maintain friendship. Otherwise, it could be an out of sight, out of mind sort of situation. But for others, it's not necessary to talk every day to remain friends.
ReplyDeleteI personally believe it's about the quality of contact, not the quantity of contact. I have friends that I speak to on a very regular basis that I don't consider my closest friends just b/c of the nature of our friendship. But then I have friends who I don't speak to that often, just b/c we have different schedules or are in different parts of the country. But when we come together, it's like we saw each other yesterday. And I think it's because the quality of those friendships are good enough to stand the test of time.
As for your friend KT, it sounds like he just needs to get used to the fact that you've both grown up and responsibilities and schedules have changed. He shouldn't wait for you but do his own thing as well and then when you guys hang out, you catch each other up on what's going on in your lives and hang out like old times.
Preach Preach Brother!!!!
ReplyDeleteNo you are not wrong. Everything you have said is very true. We have our life to live and that person isn't going to pay you for being there every second of the day now are they?! They aren't going to help you pay bills now are they?! They aren't going to get married to you and have childeren with you now are they?!(well that can be arranged but you know what im saying)
If he can't be a friend like an adult should then he's being fucking selfish!!!
I feel what you are saying.
ReplyDeleteMy friend and I are the same way. We have gone off and done our own things, We have achieved success in our areas and are doing well for ourselves. We made not speak everyday do to schedules and what not but when do speak we are acting like we were never apart. We have an understanding that no matter we will always be there for one another.
Your not being a bad friend but I do think your friend is overreacting. I think your friend just need to realize that just as his life went on when he was in college so did everyone else. Once he understand that then he will realize that you are not turning your back on him but living your life just like he was living his.