Keep your team strong; The 5 people every man needs in his life

Voltron, what a classic. Before I start with today's post I wanted to clear something up for the one or two sociopaths that decided to comment on the last post without reading and fully understanding what was said. I was not in opposition of Spoon abstaining until marriage, I was suggesting that, for multiple reasons, she not let that be known to every males she comes in contact with five minutes after meeting them. What you do with you're body is your prerogative. I don't judge, neither should you. On to the next post...

Contrary to the "born alone, die alone theory," Tha King believes life is a team sport. You can go at it alone, but you're going to lose. Will Smith said that you are the 5 people that you spend the most time with(smart guy), if that's true than I need to get the hell away from my aunt.

When it comes to men, who are expected to have uphold certain moral standards and meet the expectations of countless people, the type of people you keep around you is that much more important. A man needs people that can keep him in check, provide him with perspective, inspire and excite him. If you understand the type of people a man has in his life you will better understand your role in that man's life. I've narrowed it down 5 types of people;

1. The "Old Head"; Commonly known as the father figure, sadly so many men don't have fathers so this role is often filled by an older brother, older friend in the neighborhood. In the worst cases it's filled by a mother. The old head is critical to the growth of a man. He should be one of the first people that the man consults about difficult situations and decision that he is faced with. The old head should be able to give his unbiased, uncensored opinion without any fear of offending the man.

2. The "Young Gun"; The old head gives the knowledge, The young gun receives the knowledge. Again this since the father son relationship is so often not present, a man may take his little brother, nephew, cousin or kid in the neighborhood as his young gun. The key to this relationship is that it has to be mutual consent, you can't be someones old head if they don't view you like that.

3. "Mama"; Or Grandmama, or auntie, or girlfriend who thinks they are the boss. This is the person the man goes to for comfort and security, after a man has made the tough decisions with the help of the old head, he goes to mama for the unconditional love and support. He also goes for that home cooked meal and free laundry service.

4.The Rival; The name speaks for itself. This is the man's antagonist. The person he views as his equal. The rival constantly challenges the man, knowingly or not. The rival pushes the man to demand more of himself. When self motivation fails, the rival, and fear of losing to him(or her) is what keeps the man going.

5.The Muse; This is the person that inspires the man. The muse makes the man want to follow his dream, be a better man, accomplish a goal. Like the rival, the muse often times don't know they are the muse.

Take a look at the men around you and see if you can't identify each of these people in his life. Also take a look at your relationship with that man. Maybe you are one of these people.