*Disclaimer; This is in no way making fun or being critical of overweight ppl, hell I'm overweight. It's merely a commentary on what I observe and believe to be true. You may observe something completely different and that's fine, this isn't your damn blog.
Despite what some people like to believe, Men and Women are not equal. We live in a society full of double standards and hypocrisy in regards to gender, race, age, etc. Today I'd like to talk about one of the those double standards that seems to be oft misrepresented. Approximately 30.6% of the United States population is considered obese, this is the highest % of any country in the world. This blog is not Americans and our fat ass habits though. The question today; Is obesity more accepted amongst Males or Females?
Social media sites(in 2012 the best barometer of what is going on in society.) are flooded with Big Girl empowering pictures, articles and slogans.
"Real men like curves"
"Big girls do it better"
As I'm typing this I did a quick Google search of "Big Girls" and came across two blog posts entitled "6 reasons why you should date a fat girl." and "Are Big girls better in bed?".
Go to the mall. There's Ashley Stewart, The Avenue, Lane Bryant, all stores that sell plus sized clothes for women. All designed to make sure plus sized women don't miss out on the opportunity to be fashionable.
What do we have for Big men?....I'll wait....
Big and Tall man stores?? (Who's clothes suck by the way.) While brands like the gap and Ralph Lauren do sell larger sizes, they must be ordered online and the styles are still limited at best.
When it comes to dating and relationships, big men get the short end of the stick as well. Men, largely because of your our unquenchable blood thirst for vagina, are accepting of women of all sizes. As long you as have big boobs and a fat ass there are guys that will go after you. "More cushion of the pushin."Women on the other hand, not all but a good enough amount, are extremely particular when it comes to the physical features of their mates. Love handles and a gut are not to popular features. Ladies, honestly speaking, how many times have you dismissed a guy because he had man-boobs?(Trust me, I know). Big women are generally comfortable with their sexuality, that's why its not unlikely to see one in lingerie and sexy undergarments just like the sz 2 girls. I have yet to see, nor do I care to, a big ass dude w/ leopard print Speedos on.(shutters). Big women boast about the men they attract almost as much as "Skinny Bitches", they frequent the clubs and get hit on by waves of men. They have empowering club anthems. Meanwhile, Big dudes are avoided like the plague when in the club, at least it would seem that way if you look at how women act towards them. That is, unless they've got money. Green has a very...slimming effect on men.
When observing people in their social circles it is also evident that the men have a tougher time in society. While they may say mean or hurtful things behind a woman's back, a big girl's female friends are generally supportive of her appearance. They constantly encourage her, telling her she's sexy. They rarely question her eating habits unless it becomes particularly destructive. When she decides she wants to lose weight, they are supportive then too.
Men on the other hand are relentless with the fat jokes, pranks etc. Even between friends, calling a woman a fat ass is a sin. Men on the other hand are quick to drop the fat bomb in regards to one of his boys for a quick laugh. We will tear down an ridicule a friend(unknowingly of course, there are rarely malicious intent.)
We do have some redeeming qualities though. One good thing about males is that they are very supportive of an overweight friend who is looking to lose.
Botton line is, the plight of the big man is overlooked. "Big boys need love too,".
Do you agree? Disagree?
Judybloom
ReplyDeleteI believe the stigma towards overweight men and women are generally the same. The one thing I believe is different is the feeling of empowerment with overweight men. In the media many overweight men are often actors and use there weight in stand up performances or scenes in movies. An overweight male actor is often making fun of himself falling down or breaking something when he sits down, so it’s over looked as comedy. Where as women who are overweight often play the insecure girl who doesn't get the guy, and every women can relate to this no matter what size she is. That's why there are so many slogans and campaigns geared toward women say beauty in all sizes and race.
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